In an ongoing series here on LockerGnome, several of us writers have agreed to hand the keyboard over to our significant others to get their take on what it’s like living with someone who writes about technology as their professional passion.
I’ve been married to my wife Angela for two years now, and we lived together for a couple of years before that. She has had to endure a number of inconveniences including a computer desk in the bedroom while we shared a one-bedroom apartment, a bunch of gadgets strewn around the apartment, the loss of our spare bedroom (which became my home office), action figures and other geek paraphernalia placed in common areas such as the living room, and other issues that will no doubt come to light in this article.
When I met Ryan, I thought he was strange because he had blue hair and he would always talk about playing video games with his friends at work. I found it interesting that he had a radio show, but it was only playing on the Internet. When we were dating, he would frequently talk about things like Second Life, computers, and Twitter.
When we moved in together, I was surprised about just how much time he could spend in front of the computer. He would watch videos, play games, chat, and I always had to check to see if his webcam was on before entering the room.
Don’t get me started on LAN parties. I don’t understand them. If you’re going to play games together, why don’t you just play games like you normally do from your own home? Dungeons & Dragons is another thing I don’t understand.
I learn a lot of new things living with him, too. Model rockets and LEGO are a lot of fun. When my computer breaks, it’s nice to have someone who can fix it for me in the same room. I like to watch the videos he edits, too.
My advice to anyone who finds themselves in a relationship with a geek is to try to find a common ground and shared interests. You might be surprised at what you both enjoy. Making time for one another is important.
It’s also important to make sure that each of you has your own hobbies and interests. You don’t have to like everything the person you’re with does. It’s good to have some time to yourself so you don’t end up driving the other person crazy. If you can find that balance somewhere in the middle of too much and too little time together, then you’re on the right track.
There are many types of geeks out there. Computer geeks may love computers and everything about them, but that doesn’t mean they share a lot of common ground with LEGO geeks or Renaissance geeks. Everyone is different, and you never know when that geeky person sitting across from you might just surprise you. You may even end up married to him/her years later.